Even Golden Retrievers Bark

Have you ever taken Gary Smalley and John Trent's personality test? I always come out a golden retriever. The good things are that they are calm, easy going, peacemakers, dependable... you get the picture. The weaker areas can be that they are too accommodating, too much one who wants to please and a person who avoids conflict. That last one really strikes a cord with me since I like for everyone to just get along!!

In the past few weeks I have been "musing" quite a bit about headlines in the news about Planned Parenthood. You may have heard that the Komen Foundation pulled its funding for PP and there was quite an uproar. Since then they have returned to funding it again (most likely due to the uproar). Let me say very clearly that I am against Planned Parenthood. Its founder Margaret Sanger was pro abortion and as far as I can tell from reading her quotes, racial cleansing.

PP is the largest provider of abortions in this country. Yes, they do provide breast mammograms and other gyn services to low income women, but so do other agencies that do not perform abortions. My blood pressure goes up when I read about PP policies and what they advocate. I think most people are just not aware of the truth of what PP is all about.

Twenty five years ago a women walked into a crisis pregnancy center in San Diego thinking it was an abortion clinic wanting an abortion. The counselor met her with love and understanding. She decided to place her baby with a couple that had prayed for a baby for years. We were blessed with a wonderful son that spring day in 1986. We had the opportunity to meet both birth parents and for me to be in the delivery room.

Twenty two years ago a Hispanic woman went twice to an abortion clinic and was turned away because she did not have the money. Thankfully, she found her way to the same CPC in California. She too placed her precious baby boy with us. Both experiences were emotional, yet there was so much love all around. All of our lives were changed because a CPC was there in San Diego.

In Anderson a CPC opened twenty two years ago. Randy and I have been a part of it from the beginning. There is so much love and support for the women and their families. The love of Christ permeates the CPC. We get support from individuals and some churches. Sometimes I think if people only knew the lives that have been changed because we are here in Anderson. We have struggled for 22 years to keep the CPC open 3 days a week. There are pregnancy tests, ultra sounds, counseling, teaching, clothing, diapers, food, and love shared with the women and their babies. There is also forgiveness for those that have had abortions. It is a place of grace,  God has continued to" keep oil in the lamp" and we are so thankful for His mercies .Our "oil" is getting low again as we approach our April fundraiser. God is faithful to supply all our needs.


So these are the musings of a golden retriever who loves to make people happy, but sometimes even golden retrievers have got to BARK !

Tuesdays with Alicia

I met a little ten year old girl 7 months ago when I volunteered to mentor a child from a local children's home. It did not take long for her to capture my heart. She is the oldest of six children and has had a lot of responsibility in her first decade of life. Her house mama told me to let her have some fun ! Alright I can "do" fun !!

We went swimming at my neighbor's pool with a little friend. My neighbor served hot tea and cookies which Alicia loved! I took her to the bookstore and let her pick out some books and we read together. She came to my house and met my family and dogs. We eat food that was very different than what she was used to eating. Many things she had never had before like corned beef and cabbage or eggplant! She even liked most of it.

Alicia called me the "Craft Lady"  because I love to make things. We made a quilt for her bed together, Thanksgiving turkeys, homemade Christmas cookies, and clay necklaces. When we made the necklaces she made one for everyone in the home. She thoughtfully went about deciding on the color and design for each one.

Once she and I went to a Thai restaurant with cloth napkins. She was fascinated by the folding technique of the napkins not to mention why they even used cloth instead of paper! Before we left she asked the waitress for a lesson on napkin folding:) The waitress was amused by her curiosity and child-like wonder ... so was I.

Alicia is very smart too. She asked me so many questions about life. Once she asked why she was called an
African American when she wasn't from Africa."Well... a long time ago someone in your family was from Africa. Just like my great grandparents came from Italy".... She still was not satisfied..." why aren't we just called Americans because this is where I was born?" She has a good point...why?

I was also her Sunday School teacher so we could connect on Sunday as well. She soaked up the Bible like a sponge and was answering questions like she had years of Bible training. What a blessing for her to be at the
Children's Home where she was loved and nurtured in the Lord.

Alicia renewed in me an appreciation of life. The simple things I take for granted were seen through her awestruck eyes. Things like going to the mall, baking cookies from scratch or having tea were all adventures and full of love and laughter.


A few weeks ago she and her siblings were sent back by the court to the home they have been removed from several times. I don't understand why. I watched her blossom in the past seven months. I did not get to say good-bye because I was sick. I hope she understood. I hope she and her siblings will be ok. So many thoughts zooming through my head and heart.  I need to trust in the sovereignty of God that He will take care of them and work out His plans in her life and those of her siblings. I know that Tuesdays will never be quite the same for me.

(no pictures were used to protect Alicia's identity as well as her name was changed in this blog)